How united are you?
Damien and Tatiana Burger talk about the importance of showing to their children their love and concern for each other.
"There is nothing better in this world than that a man and woman be of one mind' wrote Homer almost three thousand years ago. Unity builds love. Parental unity gives consistency in the key messages you give your children. Above all, it means you show your children how to love: by the way you back each other up, by the way you live for your spouse and make service to others the lynchpin of your family life. Try to give constant example of this. Give a living example of round-the-clock-love, love that never gets fed up or runs out of patience. Be on the same page. Share this as a major parenting priority. So much depends on it.
Oxytocin and choices
When we feel secure and at peace in the presence of ones we love, this feeling is somehow helped by the release of the hormone oxytocin in our brains.
  • Do your children know how much you think of each other?
  • Do you compare notes each night about the children?
  • Do you have an agreed signal to avoid bickering in front of the children? 
  • For dads. What can you do to better support your wife at 'peak hour' when there are children to be fed and bathed?
  • For mums. Do you  show how much you are thinking of dad during the day?
Record holders
Percy and Florence Arrowsmith made the Guinness Book of Records as the world's longest married couple, 80 years. When asked what their secret was, Flo said 'Never go to bed without making up'. Percy said the secret could be summed up in two words 'Yes Dear'. He died at 105. Flo died two years later at 102. 'They were still very much in love with each other', the congregation was told at Percy's funeral.